“Debate your case with your neighbor, and do not disclose the secret to another;”
The Bible clearly teaches that we are not to lie. Truthfulness is a very important trait, and is the foundation for healthy relationships. We cannot have a relationship with someone we cannot trust and we cannot trust someone who does not tell us the truth. That being said, it is also important to remember, we are not required to divulge all the information to every one who asks. If you are walking casually through the local department store and make eye contact with a passerby who asks the common question, “how are you,” a simple, “fine,” would suffice. It is not necessary, for the sake of honesty, to give an elaborate backstory, or to share your deepest feelings. In the same way, some truths, have their best applications when they are concealed. There are matters that are best left to you and your spouse to discuss, and are not the business of others. Sadly, we have all had the experience of trusting delicate information to another, who does not treat it with the same care. Soon their lose tongue has shared the matter with others, and we are left to pick up the pieces. Being the first to know something, or share it with others, does nothing to improve your character, but sharing matters that are not yours to share, reveals a weakness in your character, and hurts those you are supposed to love.
If you have had a problem with releasing information that is not yours to share, perhaps the following reminders may help.
“He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, Therefore do not associate with a gossip.”
“Keep your tongue from evil And your lips from speaking deceit.”
“He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets,
But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter.”
“Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth; Keep watch over the door of my lips.”